- In season 1 and 2, when Elena was with Stefan, she mainly wore henleys and converses and straight brown hair. She didn’t experiment much. It represents her hesitation to go beyond her comfort zone.
- In Season 3, she experiments with dresses, skirts, shorts and boots in the first half of the show (All this while her bonding with Damon is going strong). In the second half she mostly reverts back to her henleys and converses, specially 3x21 and 3x22. Simultaneously she shows regression in her choices as well. She goes back to Stefan, her safety net. She stops making bold choices.
- Again, in Season 4, we see her wearing a lot of reds, we see her experimenting a lot with dresses in the beginning of the season, till about 4x08. Her relationship with Damon till now has made her feel free. But from 4x09 to 4x15, she goes back to her jeans and long hoodies. She’s not so free anymore. Not because of her sire bond, but because of her doubts about it, Damon’s insecurities about it. After switching off, we once again see her experimenting, with her choice of boots (lace up) and her hair. She’s free of everything right now, specially her own doubts about her feelings. She might not have felt them but she knew for sure by then that they were real.
Again in 4x23, we see her mostly in a dress, a beautiful white one at that (hello, wedding foreshadow :P). She’s finally completely and truly free - Free from her fears, from Damon’s insecurities, from people’s expectations. She’s finally found the courage to accept Damon for all his darkness and not be apologetic about loving him. She really doesn’t care anymore what people say about their relationship :’)
Welcome parents, family, and friends. What a beautiful day for graduation. Thank you for joining us today on this special day we celebrate our graduates. So let’s get started.
Okay let me just come out here and say it’s not that Damon hasn’t been loved in the past but he has never felt like he belonged completely, not even with Katherine or Stefan until Elena. So yes, he values romantic love a lot more than any other love but until Elena he didn’t have a place where he belonged and he didn’t even try falling in love with her. He flirted with her to piss off his brother and push her buttons. But she snuck up on him and knocked him off his feet. She was the only person who knew how to get through to him, who understood him when she saw his worst and she made him care. So with her he found his home even though he was searching for Katherine. Yeah, Alaric became his friend but without Elena he wouldn’t even be on talking terms with Alaric and Alaric did accept him but Elena challenged him every step of the way making him question who he was and even today, even if he says “This is who I am”, I don’t think he’s entirely sure that’s who he is. And Rose and Andy understood him too. But Kevin Williamson has said time and again Elena is Damon’s home and she’s the first home he’s ever had, not even Katherine and because she is, there was always a sort of emptiness that no one else could fill even though he tried to compensate and move on and failed miserably. When he said he didn’t give up but just realized that he can’t control everything and he’s made peace with that, Rebekah told him that he’ll always love Elena and if Elena doesn’t feel the same way after she takes the cure, he’ll never know peace. To Damon Stefan is family but Alaric is as well but because Elena is his home, she’s much more important to him. Sometimes people who aren’t bonded by blood are more of your family. So he wants to be loved by the girl who is home and he’s all hers and her loving him back is finally finding that peace. Why is this such a bad thing? It doesn’t discount other relationships. They all mean different things. It just means Elena is more important and he wants that final peace but if she doesn’t want him, he’ll accept it even if he doesn’t find that peace.
I’m not sorry that I met you. I’m not sorry that knowing you has made me question everything, That in death you’re the one that made me feel most alive. You’ve been a terrible person. You made all the wrong choices and of all the choices that I’ve made this will prove to be the worst one, but I am not sorry that I’m in love with you. I love you, Damon.
I’m gonna love you, even after this is all over.